I once felt like I did not exist when people around me were prospering, not that I was jealous but hearing their success stories made me feel like I was not cut for success to a point where I decided to spend most of my time alone. I just felt like I was not good enough. I had harbored that feeling of being inadequate which later on affected my self-worth. I became afraid of being criticized. At the same time, I wanted approval for everything I did because I did not believe in myself. I found solace in other people’s approval, meaning I had to live by their standards. The idea of self-worth became invalid in my case. After much introspection, I realized that one ought to live life with an awareness of their worthiness. What then is self-worth all about?
Merriam Webster dictionary defines Self-worth as a sense of one’s own value as a human being. Self-worth encompasses so many integral values. These are, amongst many others, Self-love, Self-understanding, and Self-acceptance. When you get to a point where you can love yourself, understand who you are, and accept yourself, then you have mastered the sense of self-worth. You are in a position to respect yourself, and your self-esteem is leveled up. You can reject anything that may reduce your worthiness.
A sense of self-worth is accomplished when we take time to study ourselves. You should be able to answer questions like, Whom am I? What do I like? What drives me? And many other self-discovery questions. The more you understand who you are, the more you accept yourself.
There is a greater value in constantly improving our sense of self-worth. To be able to do so, there are some factors that one can take into consideration, for example, positive affirmations. These go a long way in reminding you to accept who you are. The more you affirm that you are beautiful, the more you become comfortable with your inner and outer beauty, that’s if you weren’t. Again, remind yourself that you can achieve your goals. The more you do, the more you are prompted to align with any plan and actions that will manifest that affirmation. Keep affirming!
Inasmuch as we would want to wake up with that great feeling of sensing our values as human beings, some factors may hinder some people from experiencing that. We all have different personalities and phases depending on what tempers us, who we are with, and expectations from society. I have come to learn through self-experience that our environments can deter us from realizing our self-worth. One minute, you may have higher self-esteem and confidence that can move mountains; the next minute, you may feel so little and unworthy of the goodness of life. These feelings can stem from a place where you are honored and no acknowledgment of your good works, respectively.
The other thing that kills people’s self-esteem and stops them from realizing their self-worth is social media. Social media has led to some individuals committing suicide for being judged and unable to live up to the status quo. Some people live a double life because they want to fit in, yet doing that causes them to bury their confidence down the hole as they can never be their authentic selves. This hinders their achievements and dreams because they won’t know how far they can stretch.
In closing, what can we do about all these factors? I know it’s not easy to be yourself when the factors are so demanding, but one can at least try to find themself—the desire to establish a sense of self-worth if fueled by the zeal to attain it. If your eyes are set on that, it is possible to ignore any noise from social media, environments, or enemies of progress. Please consider this;
“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”
― C. JoyBell C.