Dealing with insecurities

Most of us, at some point in our lives, have experienced insecurity for one reason or another.  Self-doubt and insecurity are powerful emotions, and if you aren’t careful, they can eat away at you, envelop you, and make life pretty darned miserable.  One thing we need to know about insecurity is the fact that we can feel insecure in our relationships,  our bodies and our appearances, and we can feel insecure about ourselves in general.

Whenever we feel insecure, it doesn’t matter what is causing it, the simple fact of the matter is that at that specific moment in time, we are never able to fully trust and appreciate ourselves or live in the moment. Feeling insecure is like feeling that you are never good enough, and not being able to relax and let your guard down fully. People dealing with insecurity often find that this acts as a precursor for more serious mental health issues and disorders such as anxiety, stress, or depression. Those who are insecure feel as if they are never good enough and feel worthless and hopeless.  Insecurity can eat away at us if we let it, but thankfully, dealing with insecurity can be done, and it is possible to overcome it before it truly mentally finishes us off. 

Here are some feel tips to stop feeling insecure:

1: REALIZE YOUR TRUE WORTH

You matter, and you deserve to be treated with care, respect, and love. The important thing here is to reaffirm this and to continue telling yourself that you matter.  Then, and only then, will you realize your true worth in life. If you can’t appreciate yourself, how can you expect others to appreciate you? When you’re feeling down, just remind yourself that you matter, focus on all of your positive traits, and remember what your true worth is.

2: IDENTIFY  YOUR INSECURITIES 

One of the first things you need to do to overcome your insecurities is to identify precisely what they are.  Take a moment to stop and figure out what your insecurities are. What is it that is making you feel insecure? Are you insecure about your weight? Do you feel as if you are not good enough for your partner, do you feel as if you are failing in life? Whatever it is that is making you feel insecure, the first thing you need to do is find out exactly what is causing it.  Now, to do this, you are going to have to delve deep and uncover things which ordinarily you would repress and put to the back of your mind to forget about. The deeper you delve, the more you will find out about yourself and the more you will uncover your insecurities.

3: STOP SAYING THAT YOU ARE INSECURE

When it comes to dealing with insecurities, another very effective strategy is to stop saying that you are feeling insecure.  If you are looking to better yourself and get over your insecurities, you need to change your narrative and alter the way you think. If you keep telling yourself, your partner, or anybody else, that you are insecure, this is almost like reaffirming it, and if you aren’t careful, it will define you.  Stop slapping negative labels on yourself and instead start looking for positive traits.

4: TRY TO STOP OVERTHINKING

Now, we need to be careful that we don’t sound condescending here because telling somebody to stop overthinking can sometimes be easier said than done. Different people have different personalities and traits, and sometimes people just overthink even the seemingly most trivial of things. Sometimes, telling somebody to stop overthinking is like telling somebody suffering from depression not to feel depressed. With that said, though, it is possible to stop overthinking, and it can be very beneficial. Overthinking will not benefit anybody, and it will eat away at you and leave you feeling vulnerable, emotional, and insecure if you let it.

5: DON’T BE SCARED TO ASK FOR HELP

When dealing with insecurity, one of the best things you can do, yet one of the most daunting is to ask for help. Whether you are insecure about how you look, your finances, your relationship, or anything else, one of the most important things you need to remember is to ask for help. Now, it could be that your insecurities lie in your appearance, perhaps your weight, in which case help could come in the form of a dietician, a personal trainer, or a fitness expert who can help you to lose weight and improve your body.

Once you realize your own strength and importance, once you see the ways you have been hurt and can feel for yourselves on a deep level, you can actually start to break free of the chains that holds you back. You can shed the insecurities of your past and become the people you want to be.