Betrayal, a psychological damage

I consider betrayal as one of the hardest pills to swallow because it’s devastating to discover that your most trusted mate is the one who spilt the beans. It’s an act that can destroy established relationships in a split second. I have witnessed friends turning into enemies, families torn apart, and betrayal has been cited as the cause.

Here’s a scenario; Two strangers meet, and over time, they create a bond. Mind you; the bond did not happen overnight. It took a process for them to establish a relationship. Assuming that ‘A’ is coming from a place where making friends is hard, and is introverted, then that means she has to rid herself of certain habits and at the same time pick new ones along the way. As the two are bonding, certain levels of trust are established, walls are broken, and they begin to share parts of them that they had carefully shielded. Now imagine ‘A’ finding out that ‘B’ shared her secrets to a third party; she would undoubtedly feel betrayed!

Many people have suffered the same fate as ‘A’ at one point in their lives. That go-to person whom they considered their diary betrayed them by airing out their dirty laundry. For some, their partners made a mockery of their vows by cheating on them. Then some went behind their back and signed that business deal. All of these are examples of betrayal. The violation of a person’s trust, confidence and moral standards are what is considered betrayal.

When betrayal occurs, the effects can be devastating. Some can even commit suicide because they cannot stand the shameful looks or judgement that society gives when their deepest darkest secrets are made public. Their self-esteem is damaged. Some resort to drinking or smoking to deal with the stress caused by that betrayal. Not only does betrayal cause stress, but it can also lead to shock, anger, grief, trust issues and so on. It damages psychologically.

Betrayal is quite damaging because it attacks the foundation of relationships. It strikes that trust and loyalty that would have been established. How then can people avoid betrayal? In this day and age, loyalty does not come easily, neither do trust. Why then do people destroy what they have by not exercising the ability to uphold the moral standards of trust and loyalty? If it’s a matter of wanting to fit in, is it not okay to have one loyal friend instead of a hundred disloyal people surrounding you? Those vows you made on your wedding day meant you would be faithful to your partner; why destroy them for short-term pleasures? Think about it.

In conclusion, let it be known that to err is human; to forgive is divine. Please learn to sort out any misunderstandings instead of opting for betrayal. If the issues are not resolvable, isn’t it better to walk away without creating any havoc? Choose peace over drama; you are worth more than being labelled a betrayer.